I am not unlike many women you know, whether you realize it or not. At 38 years old, I have been actively trying to get pregnant for 16 months with no luck. Like many women, I have seen and heard many women in their late 30′s and early 40′s who have had several children after getting married “late in life”, as my mother would say. What I haven’t seen or heard was the accompanying story of these women’s journey to a healthy, live birth.
Getting pregnant and having a child was something I romanticized my entire life. It has now become a process. A fun, exciting, sexual, challenging, intrusive, calculated, lonely, sad, innovative and improbable process for us. One of the greatest challenges of it all is finding the balance between educating yourself, keeping peace of mind, but not allowing the education and emotions rule your life and your marriage.
I begin this blog in an attempt to chronicle our path. I write as an outlet for my emotions. I share my experience to help educate other women.
I hope you find support in my words.
I hope we get to my last blog post with my husband and I in the hospital welcoming our newest addition. 
love and prayers.
*********PLEASE NOTE THIS IS MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE AND BY NO MEANS MEDICAL ADVICE. PLEASE CONSULT A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL FOR MEDICAL NEEDS.*************
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April 8, 2009 at 1:37 am
chrissybean
Just read your post on the HSG. Had one myself on Monday of this week you’re right. It was NOT, I repeat, NOT mild cramping. It was so painful, I was sweating profusely and grabbing a hold of the bar (white knucked) on the gurney I was on. As I tried to get up, my legs gave out on me. Unfortunately, the results of my x-ray show that I have some partial blockage in one or both of my tubes. That said, my doctor suggests we go “straight to IVF.” But I wasn’t happy with that news, so I asked for an alternative. He told me that I could go in for a laprascopy surgery so they can see how and where my tubes are blocked. So…that’s where we are….not what I expected, but nevertheless, seems to be the road I’m on….Best of luck to you….Thanks for being so candid about your experience.
April 9, 2009 at 2:36 am
onegoodswimmer
Oh, darling, I am sorry you had such a bad experience. I feel for you. I had a hysteroscopy yesterday that I am going to blog about soon here. I say, be sure your tubes are open, even if you go straight to IVF. There is a greater risk of ectopic pregnancy in IVF (odd, right?) because the tubes can suck the eggs back up. I have had a laproscopic surgery to remove ovarian and tubal cysts. It was very easy, they give you great IV meds and a morphine pump in your overnight stay. They key for that is to make sure you rest adequately after…don’t lift, take too many stairs. My experience is that the doctors always underestimate recovery. In fact, the fellow yesterday told me that I could return to work after the hystersocopy! holy foolishness!